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Celebrating Moms!

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We would like to celebrate mothers this week!

What positive message do you want to send to other Moms who have a child with autism? If you could offer encouragement to other Moms what would you say? What new strength or wisdom did you gain from raising a child with autism?

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  1. Selena Dasgupta
    April 25, 2011 at 1:39 pm

    For every stressful minute there will always be something to make you smile! Your child is the biggest gift that God could ever give! He trusts you with His most precious children!

  2. Johanna
    April 25, 2011 at 1:48 pm

    To all the wonderful moms out there: You are stronger than you know. No matter what new challenges come along you will ALWAYS be able to rise to the occasion. Why? How? Because of the deep love that you feel for your child no mountain will ever be too high to climb. Surround yourself with family and friends who are supportive of you and that understand what you are going through. But most important of all, if you believe in God seek his guidance. He will NEVER steer you wrong. ;-)

    • KAREN COUCH
      May 1, 2011 at 9:34 pm

      GOD NEVER GIVES YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE. BRAVO TO YOU FOR KNOWING THIS AND TRUSTING THAT HE WILL STEER YOU IN THE RIGHT PATH. HE WILL! HE ALWAYS DOES. MY SON IS AMAZING! I WOULD NOT TRADE HIM FOR ANYTHING IN THE WORLD! HE WILL BE 18 AT THE END OF JUNE AND I WAS TOLD TO INSTITUTIONALIZE HIM AT THE AGE OF 3. THE DOCTORS TOLD ME I WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO HANDLE HIM AS HE GREW AS THEY DIAGNOSED HIM SEVERE! MY SON WORKED SO HARD HIS WHOLE LIFE AND IS NOW GRADUATING WITH A 3.7 GPA FROM A CATHOLIC HIGH SCHOOL WITH HONORS~ HE IS BEAUTIFUL 6’8″ 300LB YOUNG MAN WITH A VERY BRIGHT FUTURE. I KNOW GOD DID THIS! THANK GOD I DID NOT LISTEN TO THE EARLY ADVICE

      • Jen
        May 7, 2011 at 2:49 am

        Amen Karen, to God be the glory. May he continue to shower his grace on your family

      • Michelle
        May 8, 2011 at 3:06 pm

        Wow….that is amazing. My son is 20 years old, and life presents him with many challenges, especially interaction with others. I’m not sure what his future holds, but I will never give up on him. I pray to God daily, asking for His guidance. I still get down about his situation, I try not to compare him to others, but still need to work on it. He is a good person, just difficult for me to see how difficult it is for him! I wish you and your son continued success!

  3. Jayme Mack
    April 25, 2011 at 1:51 pm

    Just wanted to let anybody who is in the Dayton area know that there is an Autism 5K Run/walk scheduled for April 30th starting at 9:00 am at the Payne Rec. Center in Moraine.

  4. April 25, 2011 at 1:53 pm

    Patience, no one is perfect, and to each his own!

  5. Donna Cartwright
    April 25, 2011 at 1:55 pm

    Lots of love an patience, is my advice.

  6. Tiffany Jones
    April 25, 2011 at 2:12 pm

    You are strong and can handle more than you think. Our children are beautiful and unique. Though sometimes it is hard, know that you are doing everything you can to help your child. Love them each day and cherish each moment you can.

  7. Shawn
    April 25, 2011 at 2:15 pm

    My chunk of wisdom is this: It doesn’t matter what the outside world is saying or thinking, you are your childs safety and support. Everyday is a blessing. Sometimes just getting up and trying again is the strentgh that you both need. One of my favorite quotes is: “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying “I will try again tomorrow”. Our kids are so brave, as are we. Love and laugh together.These amazing kids of ours are so pure and raw. It makes us look at ourselves and others in a different way. Much love my autism family!

    • Barbara
      May 9, 2011 at 8:06 am

      I totally agree – sometimes the experts tell us we are helping too much – however we need to be there ready to catch them – our children need to know a safety net is there – that someone understands, that someone can put into words what they are feeling when they cannot, always ready to step away but always there when needed …most behaviors come from fear and inability to communicate – keep working to reassure, keep working to communicate and be there to catch them – my son has been my greatest teacher and I will always love and be grateful for the rewards he has brought to me

  8. April 25, 2011 at 2:33 pm

    Meditate and nourish your child with love to see success. Nurtured your child’s heart to foster self-confidence and self-worth with energy focused on behaviors that you love to see and use fabulous words to teach values and beliefs about that positive behavior. After a challenging behavior, with no warnings, tell the child the consequence, reset to the next moment and begin again with no reprimands or reminders of the challenging behavior yet follow through with the consequence for the inappropriate behavior. Separate yourself from your child’s ways to stay strong.

  9. Stacey Blume
    April 25, 2011 at 2:33 pm

    One never fully understands the meaning or the concept of unconditional love until you have a child. When you become labeled a “Special Needs Mom” life takes on a totally new perspective. You cherish the family and friends you care about your well being, accept your child and your decisions on his/her health and education.

  10. Elizabeth
    April 25, 2011 at 3:15 pm

    @Shawn: Love the quote, thank you!…To all the new Moms out there who are starting to try and figure this thing out…strip away all the negative people..there is no time for them..you are you child’s voice so follow your instinct…don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t know any better.

  11. Kim
    April 25, 2011 at 3:30 pm

    As Moms, I feel we stay strong each and everyday, these are our children, my 5 year old teaches me new things on a daily basis. He is my rock, the person that makes life worth living, and makes me want to get out of bed everyday. He is my hero!

  12. Nancy novelo
    April 25, 2011 at 3:45 pm

    Nancy I celebrate you today because you are a terrific mother to Steven! Keep up the good work!!! Luv you very much sis!!!

  13. Amy
    April 25, 2011 at 4:11 pm

    EVERY child is a normal child because every child has an area they need help with. The fact that your child has been diagnosed with autism simply means that you know more specifically what their needs are after that diagnosis. It doesn’t change you, it doesn’t change your child. You will still love and be loved by your child. They will surpise you and they will teach you. Stay positive and know yourself that it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. You will be be proud of them and they will make you proud of yourself. Winston Churchill’s mum was told ‘You must be very proud of your son.’…to which she replied ‘I am. To which son are you referring?’

  14. lois triebenbach
    April 25, 2011 at 4:17 pm

    I found that my son is god creation, and that he gave me this honor to care and fight for this child. It is god is where I get my strenght from, and god has put people, programs, etc so my son can succeed in life. Now he is more independant than I am, now he is 16 years old, trying to work on organizTional skills he needs for college! I have faith he will over come that.

  15. Edith
    April 25, 2011 at 4:27 pm

    What can I say…what a sometimes crazy life!! It doesn’t matter whatever stressful event or behavior that is thrown my way…I am ALWAYS so proud of my Matt!! He is such a wonderful precious person and I relish in just the beauty of him!!!!!

    I am SO blessed!!!!

  16. Claudia Guerrero
    April 25, 2011 at 4:36 pm

    In the beginning I couldn’t understand why my child behaved to way he did. The doctor was no help what so ever.. Then I was blesse dby enrollig him in a school readiness program, There the teacher and director were kind enough to help me get him evaluated through the school district. Once the diagnose was given I began thinking how could I have prevented this from happening. Now my son is very verbal and still has his bad moments.. He is 6 years old and we have a long road ahead of us.. Now because of him I learned to be patient,understanding,and to see the world through his eyes. He has brought a lot of joy to my family and every day I count my blessing for having a special angel with me…

  17. April 25, 2011 at 4:51 pm

    As I look over the comments I amazed at how united we all are in thought. I am grateful and humbled at this wonderful child God has blessed me with. Amazed that I am deemed worthy to help fight for this cause because it is so personal to me and I am thankful that the condition my child has is not life threatening, life changing yes. Is my child at a greater risk for being taken advantage of, you bet, but God has given me the privilege to love someone so unique and special that the burdens are definitely out weighed by the blessings and when I lay down at night I can pray for a better day and do not have to worry about another day with my child that may not come.

  18. Dre
    April 25, 2011 at 5:10 pm

    Make a list of all the wonderful things you LOVE about your child and keep it handy for the bad days. Remember how hard things are for them and how brave and strong they are. When I realized how much stress and anxiety my son was living with at the tender age of 4 I gained so much respect for him – most adults couldn’t cope with what he does.

    Don’t ever let yourself feel alone. Seek out other special needs moms and support each other. Ask for help. Take time to yourself and don’t feel guitly.

    Smile and know you’re doing the best you can!

  19. Jocelyn
    April 25, 2011 at 5:40 pm

    Patience! lol! Lots and lots of it!!!! :)

  20. Judy Horvath
    April 25, 2011 at 6:45 pm

    I have had 20 years with Autism. you know the saying- what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger- it so correct! You tend to appreciate all the small, tiny little things our kids finally accomplish- we do not take for granted anything that has to do with our child. everything is amazing. You also don’t go a day without a tear, or a lot of tears, depending on the day- could be happy tears for the tiny triumph or of frustration or heart breaking sadness. But all of that keeps you going. It makes you the fierce advocate for your child. It makes you and you alone their rock. it can weigh very heavy on your shoulders, but it is a rock you can bear. You might not see it now, but wait- and in 3, 5 or 10 years, you look back, and all those little triumphs, build up and it is a wonderful victory! there are still hard roads ahead- but you know you can do it now. one more thing- whatever works for others, might not work for your child, all children with Autism, are not created equal- what is good for one- may not be good for the other. you will find a way for your child- just look at him or her, and think about what is best for THEM- what makes THEM comfortable, happy , content and safe. and go with your Mother’s instinct. Pat yourself on the back, give yourself a break. You’ve done the very best you can, and it’s OK!

  21. Noreen
    April 25, 2011 at 10:13 pm

    There are a couple I love. One from my OT who said, “You’re the one in control”. something I read, which is “Inch by inch, it’s a cinch.” “Always have a sense of humor about things.” “Be thankful of all the helping hands along the way and slip them something “sweet or rewarding” to them occasionally.” “Always compliment someone who is good with your child and encourage them to stay in the field.” Go in and observe your child in his setting at school, sometimes they are very different there. LOVE conquers all. Play with your child everyday for at least 30 minutes, read to your child for at least 20 minutes and snuggle for at least 10 minutes :o) Tell them always that you love them. Teach them something NEW every day!!! God Bless! Oh, and teach them about God and that HE loves them too!

  22. Irene
    April 25, 2011 at 10:56 pm

    You are a beautiful woman, with real human feelings.Take a moment to
    to recharge.You are not alone, there is support for you 24/7 even when
    you don’t see it or feel it.
    Your child is just as special as mine and you are a very important
    person to me, your children, and those you see and touch everyday.

    Thank-you for being a mother,you are the best of best and don’t ever
    forget that.

  23. April 26, 2011 at 7:58 am

    My encouragement would be to look for the areas in which your child soars and to stimulate your child’s development in those areas. There are many frustrations that go along with autism, but focusing on my son’s talents and gifts helps me to have a more positive attitude and helps him to feel more confident about who he is.

  24. April 26, 2011 at 8:00 am

    Our son was diagnosed back in 1966 when the doctors felt that the mothers (and fathers)of autistic children were “cold & unfeeling”…thus the term, “refrigerator moms!” That dealt with my psyche for a long while, but I finally found the strength through the Lord to give myself a “pep-talk.” I said, “Carole, you don’t take credit for the things your other children CAN do, and so you are NOT taking credit for the things Ben cannot perceive!” I was then able to accept him for who he was, not for who I wished he could be (for HIS sake, as well as ours). I even apologized to him, and he looked at me with big eyes…like “Mom, it’s OK”…about the same way God forgives our mistakes and failures, and it is then forgotten! That was many years ago, and Ben has been, and still is, a joy and comfort in my life.

  25. April 26, 2011 at 8:17 am

    Our son was diagosed back in 1966 when the doctors felt that the parents of autistic children were “cold and unfeeling”…thus, the term, “refrigerator moms!” That dealt with my psyche for quite a long while, but I finally found the strenth through the Lord to give myself a “pep-talk!” I said, “Carole, you do not take credit for all the things your other children can understand and do, so you are NOT taking credit for all that Ben cannot perceive!” I was then able to accept and love him for himself…not for who I wished he could be (for HIS sake, as well as ours). I even apologized to him, and he looked at me with big eyes…like, “Mom, it’s OK”…much the same as when God forgives our sins and failures, and then it is forgotten. That was many years ago, and Ben has been, and still is a great joy and comfort to me!

  26. Jessica
    April 26, 2011 at 9:27 am

    When my son was first diagnosed, I went into some sort of mania. I researched everything and was trying to implement every fix (diets, therapies, etc) that I could to help him “recover”. Every minute of my life became about “saving” my son’s life. Eventually, I ran out of steam. I seemed to hit a brick wall emotionally and physically. Then it clicked. I have a husband and children that need me and I have become lost to them. I am missing everything that matters. In my desperation, created by fear of the future, I had completely lost sight of the present. My son is still GFCF and still attends therapy twice a week, but, now, I have made a conscious choice to live in the present. I am checked-in and fully absorbing each precious smile, giggle and gesture. My advice is, do not let yourself be overcome by worry over the future. That fear is caustic and can destroy you. Instead, stay in the present. Love your family and cherish each and every moment with them. I have found a great deal of peace and happiness through this focus and I am a better mom, and wife, because of it. That, in itself, is good therapy.

    • Noreen
      April 27, 2011 at 12:41 am

      Yes, yes, yes – nicely put!

  27. Sarah
    April 26, 2011 at 10:15 am

    On diagnosis: I would send them to this site… http://www.autismspeaks.org/howtocope/strategies.php

    My family and friends: “you are so depressed”, as if something was wrong with me. “Just accept it”??? WHAT? I had just lost my idealized child (see site above). Sadly, I began to actually listen to them – that there was something wrong with me.

    I would say to a new mother on diagnosis: There is nothing wrong with you. Your grief is yours – it is no one’s business. You have just lost your idealized child (and have to accept this other child you never imagined). TIME is the only healer. How long it takes is nobody’s business – only yours. Do not listen to anyone that tells you that there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. Scream, cry (I did this in my car) – I screamed at the top of my lungs.

    Then, I would say you need active meditation (e.g., tai chi, yoga, walking). You need to keep your brain occupied why learning to relax and decrease your anxiety. Post-traumatic Stress disorder is very common and reducing your anxiety is key.

    And, I’d give her a big hug and would tell her how sorry I am for her loss. Then, I would assure her that it will get better. When? I have no idea, but I promise, it will.

    • Noreen
      April 27, 2011 at 12:46 am

      Sarah, When you pray and pray for peace. It does get better! xx/oo I know of no such thing as an “ideal” child :/ I have 2 typical kids. Meditation is good but you have to look up to the Boss. Treat your child like he’s typical and follow his or her interests. You need to “thrive in the chaos” – life isn’t supposed to be a bowl of cherries is what I’d tell ya. You need to count your blessings and thank him for every day you get (a 9/11 Survivor telling you like it is, and I have TRUE Posttramatic Stress, for sure ;o) Remember “Thrive in the Chaos and keep your sense of you / and humor” *Hugs*

    • KAREN COUCH
      May 1, 2011 at 9:57 pm

      I agree that upon diagnosis you need support to cope with the news. This is very important to help you and support you however I do not agree that do not agree with the “sorry for your loss” comment. My child is not a loss. Who is to say what is normal? no two children are born on the same playing field. My first question upon diagnosis 15 yrs ago was is it fatal??? will my child live? I was told your child will be alve but may not live! I thanked God for life in my child’s body and set to work to make sure that the life he was going to live was going to be the best life and qualty of life he could have. Everyone has to morn but get over it and get to work on helping your child have quality in his life. It is not all about you it is your responsibility to take care of this person that God gave you! Don’t assume that all you have to do is enroll your child in a special program at school and they will get all that they will need. WRONG!!!!! your child will get all that the school system THINKS they need or can afford for them to need! Your child’s needs are YOUR reponsibility. My child did not get what he needed at school I had to make sure that my child got what he needed not what they thought that he needed!!!Don’t rely on the professionals to know everything your child needs that is your job. That child is just a job to the professionals you are your child’s advocate and loving parent be his voice. Morn yes, but get over it your time is precious! you have to do everything you can to make sure that your child’s brain gets all the input it can before 5 yrs old. that is when your time frame is.

  28. April 27, 2011 at 10:55 am

    On the days that you wonder if you really know your child, remember that YOU know your child better than anyone else. You are a good mom, you really are. :)

  29. michelle
    May 1, 2011 at 8:21 pm

    Selena Dasgupta :For every stressful minute there will always be something to make you smile! Your child is the biggest gift that God could ever give! He trusts you with His most precious children!

  30. Amber Woods
    May 1, 2011 at 8:32 pm

    You are your childs biggest hero. Educate yourself. Take advice from people who know what your going through. And ignore the well meaning people who have no idea what they’re talking about. It’s not the end of your world, just the begening of a different one.

  31. Tammie Perrymore-Baca
    May 1, 2011 at 8:37 pm

    Like most parents of children with Autism, I am fully aware of the stress we all encounter everyday. Being a single mother seems to carry a little more stress at times but I constantly remind myself that if Autism were to ever be removed….my son wouldn’t exist….Things will get better and I am lucky enough to have an awesome team on our side. With the help of my son’s teacher, his therapists, and our newest blessing Michael (behavior specialist)…my son’s possiblities are endless!!

  32. Hollie
    May 1, 2011 at 8:46 pm

    Sometimes you just have to laugh at all the craziness, you have to follow your heart, and you have to do what you feel is right,

    For my potty training moms, they can be potty trained, it has taken us a long time, but we have figured out what works for me son. Hang in there moms.

  33. Debe
    May 1, 2011 at 9:07 pm

    What I would tell any mom FIRST you need to remember to breathe! Everything else will happen but at time when you feel like you feel either the air is getting sucked out around you or that you are drowning(and it will happen), just remember to take a breath!
    Next, you don’t need language to understand your child. You didn’t need it when he/she was in your womb, or when you first held them. Your love for them will always reach them.
    Finally, even though your world has changed when you heard those words. ” your child is on the spectrum” at the end of the day( good or bad) I am able to tuck my child in and give him kisses good night. Not every mom can do that and I can.

  34. Susan Thomas
    May 1, 2011 at 9:18 pm

    That dancing in circles can be fun. That it’s *ok* to lock yourself in the bathroom for a few minutes and cry. Pick your battles wisely. I’ve eliminated people from my life that judge my “parenting” skills over being able to see autism and the behavioral problems that come with it. Seek outside resources to supplement your child’s education, either online courses, or reaching out to a university, most moms don’t know that student special ed teachers, student OT’s, Speech Paths, & ABA therapists have to put in many “free” hours of service before they graduate. Make a stand! For every parent that calls a legislator to support Autism legislation either Insurance or Educational, you can make a difference, take it a step further and visit the capital and testify. Change begins with you! Stay strong and carry forth!

  35. Carey
    May 1, 2011 at 9:27 pm

    Trust your gut. You are the expert on your child. No one way is right, no educator is perfect, no therapist has the key and no doctor has spent enough time in your home to know best. Do your own research and make your own decisions. When our children turn 18 we will be standing there. Make decisions based on quality of your child’s life and your family’s.

  36. KAREN COUCH
    May 1, 2011 at 9:29 pm

    the best advice I can give as a parent of an autistic child is to listen to everyone professional about what you should do and knowing your child the best of everyone take from it what you feel in your gut will work for you. treat your child like other children and expose him/her to as much as you can so that that child learns how to behave and exsist in all situations. This will make your child’s life much better as he/she grows. Do not shelter your child away in your home while the rest of the family goes about normal life make your child part of that everyday in order for your child to gain life experiences.

    • Jen
      May 7, 2011 at 3:09 am

      I’ve been so guilty of this. I wouldnt take my son (3y9m) to certain functions that required him to sit or play quietly because of his over activity and loudness. I now realise that he’s never gonna learn how to behave in a socially acceptable manner if he’s hidden away at home in seclusion.

  37. Heather Beckham
    May 1, 2011 at 9:30 pm

    God chose you, and me, to parent unique children; he has entrusted us with their care and with the great gift of all that they are-to Him and this world. Faith is what gets me through hard times; and, remembering that those times won’t always be so hard-that there is light and color in the world that we can only see through the prism of rain. For those of you who need a more scientific matter of fact perspective, one cannot have a rainbow without rain. What ever you don’t let people tell you not to feel your own emotions or tell you that you should be happy about your circumstances; likewise, don’t let your emotions prevent you from enjoying the wonderfulness in your presence. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that a child with Autism would never understand God and church because our unique children will always know more than you and I may ever be able to learn from their communication. When the world feels sour, read Psalms 118: 8.

  38. daniela
    May 1, 2011 at 11:19 pm

    I think that I’ve to thank my daughter Violeta, (17 years old) because since she was diagnosed at 2 years old, we’ve passed from feeling strong, stressed, desesperated, scared, frustrated, happy, sad, …. everything, but always loving her and trying to do our best, and now I see everything different, because she taught us to see the world different and I think we’re better persons now than we were if she wouldn’t have been autistic….So parents, be strong, be proud, we can do it, our children are special, and so we are special mothers and fathers and brothers too…Saludos! from Argentina

    • carla Marrs
      May 2, 2011 at 6:52 am

      I totaaly agreee Happy Mothers Day! Carla Marrs

  39. May 1, 2011 at 11:36 pm

    A wise, wonderful Special Ed. Teacher told me when we started our journey with our beautiful son. Regarding the results of the initial school testing done on my son. Not to focus on the negative results. Because the results are not a true exact indication of my son. It was the results of what he wanted to share that day, at that minute, with that person. There is so much more to him and he will reveal himself in time. I was fortunate to have been told this at the beginning because it spared me a great deal of heartache. She was right. My son, now 5 years later is a completely different child. He has flourished and thrived because we never see what he CAN NOT do. We only see what he CAN DO! ;)

  40. rita
    May 2, 2011 at 4:46 am

    TO ALL THE WONDERFUL MOTHER’S OUT THERE AND I’M A MOTHER TOO. HAVE A WONDERFUL MOTHER’S DAY WITH OUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND SPECIALLY YOUR CHILDREN WHO LOVE YOU VERY MUCH EVEN IF THEY DON’T SHOW IT … , I DEEPLY UNDERSTAND BECAUSE I’M A MOTHER OF A 3YRS LITTLE BOY WHO IS MY LIFE. I WOULD NOT CHANGE ME . I GET TAKE STEPS EVERYDAY EVEN IF THEY ARE TIMES THAT ARE VERY BAD… YOU ALWAY KEEP IN MIND THEY ARE FROM YOU …
    KEEP A SMILE ON YOUR FACE AND BREATH …. IN WILL GET EASYER ….

  41. carla Marrs
    May 2, 2011 at 6:49 am

    To all the Mothers Happy Mother”s Day it takes a special mother to have a child like ours mine is now 13 in 7th grade and it is a job everyday and he is high function i pray everyday for a good day as soon as i get up we pray on the way to school i would never put him on a bus, God has been very good to us and I would not trade anything for my son he is my life when the good lord he did not say it would be easy he was so correct and there were times i thought I’d lose my mind BUt! i have done it and so blessed. Thank you Lord!

  42. Nana
    May 6, 2011 at 6:07 pm

    Happy Mother’s Day to all the Grandmother’s out there. I’ve never been prouder of my Daughter and never felt so helpless. My grandson will get everything he needs to succeed thanks to her. She’s remarkable! But it’s certainly been heartbreaking to watch my child struggle so much for her own child. My grandson is the sweetest child who brings joy to the whole familiy and has taught us more than he may ever grasp. Stay strong Grandmothers….our sons and daughters need our support and shoulders.

  43. Liz
    May 6, 2011 at 7:32 pm

    This is my homage to all of my tribe of special moms on Mother’s Day. Who have defied the odds and stayed married, who have looked fear in the face and kicked it away. Who have learned to accept but to never give up on their Autistic children. Who everyday hear ignorant comments and who (most of the time) stay calm. Who have moved mountains to make sure their child gets every single possible treatment within their reach. Who choose therapy over a new car. Who know more than most Doctors. Who invite your family into their home knowing your son will leave a path of destruction. Who always have time for a newly diagnosed mom who is grieving. Who can watch while their child has a seizure without panicking.
    Who look at little boys of eight years old and say “What if?”
    To all of you, Happy Mother’s Day.

  44. Susan S.
    May 6, 2011 at 7:33 pm

    I trust that God has a plan..there is a very good reason my son is wired in his own special way…though there are daily challenges – we make it through the day. I do my best and encourage my kids to do the same.

    Something fun to share…he was so excited to share his great idea: to make hundred $ bill copies on the computer/printer so we would be
    rich! Lol – and so he learned the word “counterfeit” that day.

  45. May 6, 2011 at 10:00 pm

    Special chikldren are the angels send from God to sweeten this bitter world. We must take care of them and support them to be as independet possible. Ah! And love them as much as we can.

  46. Rae
    May 7, 2011 at 12:50 am

    HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL MOTHERS WITH CHILDREN WHO HAVE DISABILITIES.
    I am a widowed mother of two autistic sons aged 40 and 42 who still live with me and always will as long as I am alive. I love my boys and it is because of them that I survived from the loss of my husband 30 years ago. In some cultures it has been said that these kind of children bring you luck.

  47. Leslie Rogers
    May 7, 2011 at 1:40 am

    I’m new to the “Autism World” my youngest son Jake, was diagnosed with “moderate ASD and Sensory Processing Disorder” it was a day I will never forget. I screamed and cried and felt angry at what had “been taken from our son”. My husband calmly looked at our boy then back at me and said “I don’t understand, he’s the same as he was before we went into the appointment!” Thank you Honey, because he is right. To all the “new journey” mom’s; embrace it! I have! It has been six months and Jake is TALKING!! I pick my battles, and some days I get flustered and angry, but then I stop and think what it must be like for him, and It helps me to re-direct that frusteration into concern and compassion. And my favorite quote I live by….”were if’s and but’s candies and nuts…it’d be christmas every day!”

  48. Jessica
    May 7, 2011 at 4:23 pm

    First and foremost remember that you need to take care of yourself in order to take care of another life properly. Also.. we all need to remind ourselves that our children aren’t Autistic, they just so happen to have Autism. Don’t allow a diagnosis define who your child is.. nothing about them has changed. They are still the little one you instantly fell in love at birth- they remain perfect and beautiful. Remember that its okay to cry, its okay to be angry and its okay to be afraid- just don’t let these things run your life. Look at the wonder in your child’s eyes, even if their eyes won’t meet yours. Above all else, remind yourself that you have been given the privilege of having an amazing child that will continue to teach you life lessons daily, sometime without ever needing to speak a word, be sure to listen with your heart because sometimes our ears are unable to hear things of such importance.

  49. May 8, 2011 at 11:07 am

    Happy mother’s day to all moms… keep tbhe hard work to raise our precious gifts from God.

  50. Leiontine Myers
    May 17, 2011 at 12:16 pm

    I ha ve 18 years experience as a parent of a child with Autism and I am still learning new things every day. FInd your childs area of expertise and encourage it in all they do. This may very well be the area they fing a life long career path in. Advocate for your child and stay involved no matter how tired you are. You are the expert on your child.
    My son is the reason why I have lobbied for in home support services in my youth, why I read every new case study on Autism. Why I founded an equine facilitated mental health program amd now work in the non-profit sector for adults with DD. My son made his mom what she is to day. I would say Autism has blessed my family.

  51. September 10, 2011 at 6:59 am

    Raising my son with Autism who’s now 9 y.o. has been a true blessing… he is so funny and that has taught him what funny is… the first time he said I – - looove – - – y o u… my heart didn’t just skip a beat I have no idea if it was beating all together. I say ooooohhh whenever he says I love you so he says ooooohhhh too for himself. That is funny too… His father left because it was inconvenient for him and for a while it didn’t bother me cause I fell out of love with him a long time ago, but now that Adam is starting puberty it kinda makes me wonder if he’s better off with me finding love than not. Trust is serious when you have a child with special needs. Adam loves to make people laugh but he is really amazed at how spontaneous a person laughing can be… that’s something that in itself has really caught his attention. Adam is just so amazing… last year his teacher calls me to tell me he was advancing so fast they would like to move him to a class of 8:1:1 and honestly at first I thought they must’ve miss dialed, but then I realized Adam has been advancing quit alot over the past year alone. Next week he’s starting with the NAET thing and I am uptamistic. Quelation worked and food restriction has been unbelievable. Adam doesnt ear anything with food dyes or artificial in any way, he’ salso allergic to milk and anything with milk. No sugars or sweets of any kind for this is mostly artificial and has food coloring. Everything you’ve heard is very true these things do effect our children’s brain. I have seen it first hand. Not just Autistic kids. Adam’s sister who’s 7 1/2 also has food restrictions. I tell my kids I love them too much to give them something that makes them sick. Please email me with any quetions if you’d like or connect with me on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/suffolkcountymom. Life as a single mom of an Autistic boy has only been a blessing and I keep my heart open to finding a man that has a silly family just like mine. Together we will complete our misisng pieces I believe. Our kids they deserve it. Love is just hope away and Autism is the connecting piece to get us there.

  52. LP
    October 27, 2011 at 9:36 pm

    On a particularly difficult day, I was feeling very sorry for myself, my Autistic son and our family in general. I was wondering why this was happening to us and very fearful of the future. My sister said to me “You know God gave you G because you’re so strong. He knew G needed an extra special mommy to raise him. An ordinary mommy couldn’t handle it.” Anytime things get hard I think back to what my sister said and it gives me renewed strength. I feel that all of us “special needs moms” are just that because we are strong “Mother Warriors” (as Jenny McCarthy puts it). We will fight with every ounce of our being for our children. The most amazing moms I’ve ever met are from my son’s SDC class. They are tireless, caring, compassionate, loving, strong, individuals always there to lend support. So anytime you are down and feel overwhelmed, remember, you were chosen for this child for a reason – because only YOU could do the job and do it well. Keep up the good work mommies!

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